Lack of Male Appreciation = Lack of Game

A man has no need to “trick” a woman into sleeping with him… we want it… especially with someone who has value. A man has to find his value from within because the outer world surely isn’t in a rush to give it to him.

I would also add that a lot of women want to be “led” to the bedroom. Since most of us grew up with parents, teachers, and societal pressure to be a “lady”, “keep your legs closed”, and worry about your “reputation”, it’s tough for some to drop that programming and admit that we desire sex.

When a man can successfully lead us through the physical escalation of the relationship, and we feel attracted and comfortable (because he is attractive and comfortable with himself), there’s no stopping that sexual side from coming out.

Random thought:

Soccer players are my favorite body type to look at (YUM!)… I’d rather be underneath a football player though.

Sex Can Wait… Even in Your 20′s

If you’re having sex with someone, how can you expect a friendship to develop? The friendship comes first, or at the very least, in tandem.

The way to build a solid relationship with a woman is just to go slowly. It’s just like how you would do in any other interaction with a male. You wouldn’t meet a guy somewhere and then the next day help him move or take him to the airport. Why do the equivalent (sex) with a woman, if you really want intimacy? Intimacy takes time to build. Sex is just surface… bodies coming together.

With my most recent guy – I knew him over a decade ago and really had a crush on him back then.

When we saw each other, out of the blue one day, we wanted one another (a lot) sexually… it was an “unfinished business” type deal. *But* we allowed that part of the relationship to develop alongside the friendship… almost 5 months. And because of that, we have the closest friendship I’ve ever had with a man. It’s real intimacy.

After breaking up, we both admitted to missing the friendship more than anything… even though the sex was incredible. Friendship takes time to build, but it’s worth the wait if you really want to “connect” with someone.

Thoughts of a Bi-Sexual Girlfriend

“I should be able to see other women,” she says, “but you cant.”

If she was truly bi and ended up having a long-term, committed relationship with you, then you wouldn’t have any reason not to trust that she was just using women to gratify her deepest desires. I can see how you would equate that with cheating. Though in a bi-girl’s head, it’s not.

I know, it sounds like totally messed up logic – and it is in a way… but don’t we all justify the irrational by rationalizing it?

A bi-girl is thinking “I love this man, but oh-my-gosh, I get so wet thinking about kissing, touching, licking, sucking another girl that I can’t stand myself. I must explore this! It’s not like I would ever leave him to have an ‘actual relationship’ with a girl… and if he had these awesome parts that I am so attracted to, there would be no issue… but alas, he doesn’t, so what am I supposed to do when I see a tit I wanna lick? Or when I smell a girl’s perfume and it turns me on? I wouldn’t leave my man for it, but I want to experience it! What to do???“

A bi girl should not be in a committed relationship with a man who doesn’t like her being with other women… but a lot of bi-sexual women get into these relationships (sometimes because the guy is not straight up about the fact that he doesn’t like it) and then there is chaos. But for the sake of argument, let’s just say that this bi-girl ex turned bi-sexual during the course of her committed relationship and not before (highly unlikely, but whatever).

Usually, a bi-girl won’t get turned on by every woman around her, but if there is someone that she has her eye on, holding back can be unbearable! It’s like being two steps away from insert-your-irresistible-food-of-choice-here and not being able to eat it. And she doesn’t think that it’s the same thing as being with another man… at all.

Try to put yourself in her shoes…

Can you imagine how having feelings for your same sex would change your world?

Can you imagine having to choose to be with one body type sexually when both appeal to you?

Can you imagine knowing in your heart that you would never be partnered with someone of your same sex, but wanting to explore that side of your sexuality?

And then add to the fact that only a small number of women actually turn you on… whether you are in a relationship or not, when one of those women comes along, you want it…BADLY.

Truly, girls like these should avoid committed relationships with men who don’t enjoy or want to watch their escapades.

Also, I think a lot of guys are threatened by lesbians… but a lesbian, even with a strap-on, is not a real threat to your relationship if you are with a bi-girl. After awhile of messing around with her, the novelty wears off, the beast is satisfied, and she’ll get back to reality…with her man. (Sidenote: Why wouldn’t you want to watch that? It’s hot as hell. To each his own I guess. )

But to pass that up… to pass up a chance to be with a girl you like… when you’re bi and that’s what dominates your fantasies (and the porn you watch during your ‘bate sessions )… when it’s right in front of you…taunting you… really… it’s incredibly hard to resist…especially when you don’t think of it as the same thing as being with another guy. It’s not even close to “cheating” in her eyes.

Unfortunately, by telling a bi girl that she can’t be with another girl, resentment will probably build. Bi-girls love their men and will stand by their man, but they also want to experience their sexuality… all parts of it. Committed relationships where the man doesn’t understand that, are doomed, in my opinion.

But then again… she could have speak up in the beginning and make it clear that this was the type of relationship she wants… communication goes a long way.