One of the guys I’m talking to took me to a strip club Saturday. He knew one of the strippers – so she came over and started chatting with us. I was instantly surprised at how SMART she was. She talked about a trip she just went on and told us about trying to raise some money to go to Jerusalem next… she had never been and wanted to go see some Holocaust museums and a few landmarks there.
Anyway, he told her he was going to help her out and paid for her to give me a lap dance. She took her money and happily obliged.
After she walked away he told me a little more about her. According to him, she is all about making money… and I did notice that she had two huge wads of it on both of her garter belts.
As I watched her walk around the club, I noticed something that I found quite intriguing… she went around to almost every guy asking “Wanna dance?” I watched her get turned down OVER and OVER again until she got one.
I was amazed by the fact that she DIDN’T TAKE REJECTION PERSONALLY. I mean, I’ve worked in sales for years, and I always have a problem with this… but this chick was selling HER BODY – and continuously got rejected. But she kept on going… kept her eyes on the prize and made her money.
Now of course, I’m not condoning what she does. I was just inspired by HOW she does it – that “hunter” mentality that people talk about definitely came into play. It was cool to watch.
How this relates to inner game:
1) Know you’re a prize and take nothing personally. Just keep goin’…on to the next one.
2) Not everyone is going to like you. Find the ones who do.
3) Know that the more successful you are, the more ‘failures’ you’ve had/will experience. Don’t be afraid of failure… embrace it.
I don’t know if these are the ‘most important’ aspects of inner game, but they are definitely helpful.
A man has no need to “trick” a woman into sleeping with him… we want it… especially with someone who has value. A man has to find his value from within because the outer world surely isn’t in a rush to give it to him.
